Tuesday, May 31, 2011

No Ugly Mommies

"Random thought:
If there are no ugly babies
it stands to reason that there can be no ugly mothers."

I wish I could take credit for this beautiful logic, but this quote is from Antique Mommy...a woman only slightly older than myself, who is thankfully and joyously parenting a young child in her older age, just like me.

It made so much sense I wanted to laugh, applaud and buy her a latte.  Maybe some day.

It reminded me of a conversation I had with my little darling, 8 year old Rebekah. She overheard some of her friends talking about their moms and how they all thought their own mothers were beautiful.

Beka said,
"I thought I was the only one who thinks her mom is beautiful." 

I was touched and thrilled.  She thinks I am beautiful.  This little one of mine doesn't see the wrinkles and gray hair.  I don't have the same body,skin, hair,endurance or energy that I had when I had my first kids. 

Back in the days when I was a young Mommy  people always said...
..."you look too young to have a kid"  - then
..."you look too young to have two kids" - then
..."you look too young to have three kids" - then
..."you look too young to have four kids" - then
..."you look too young to have five kids."

Seven years later, when  I had Rebekah at 38, I never heard that "too young" comment again.  I especially didn't hear it after I began struggling with thyroid cancer.

In fact, I was often mistaken as the Gramma, and my older daughter, Jana, was the assumed mother.

But, then it all changed for me.  Jana married young and began her family, so I began hearing
..."you look too young to have a grandkid" - then
..."you look too young to have two grandkids. "

After Jana delivers baby number three this June, I hope to hear
..."you look too young to have three grandkids."

Somehow, I have the feeling that my grandkids, just like my little Rebekah, will not see the wrinkles and gray hair.

They will think I'm beautiful.

And I truly think Antique Mommy is right,

there are no ugly mommies
because there are no ugly babies.

Parenthood is  a beautiful cyle when love is blind, and blind love is good.


  1. I think you are right! No ugly mommies and no ugly babies!!!


  2. Lovely post. No one has ever said to me that I look too young to have a kid. They have said, "How old is your grandson?"

    Seems like you've got the best of both worlds - being a mommy and a grandmommy, all at the same time!

  3. What a lovely post.
    Like you, I am an older parent with a younger child, so I totally get what you're saying. I too am a Thyroid Cancer Survivor, though I had a different type than you had (from looking at your profile).
    Love is a wonderful thing, young/old/blind - I'll take it any way I can get it!

  4. Well, my five year olds just called me ugly. We say, "don't be ugly" around here when someone is ugly in spirit or with words. I think that may be a southern thing. Unfortunately (or fortunately), my daughters are often told by complete strangers that they are beautiful, so we really try to focus on making the outside match the inside. Tonight, they were ugly by being disrespectful to their father. When I carried out the punishment we had threatened at bedtime if they continued to be ugly, the 5 year old twins proclaimed me to be the ugliest mommy in the world. ;) Oh well, I may be ugly, but a mom's got to do what a mom's got to do. UGH, this job is SO hard. I say all that to tell you that I appreciated your words today. I really needed them. It was a rough night.

  5. simple blessings are the ones that touch us deepest. I hope they keep coming and brighten your path!

    mama to 8
    one homemade and 7 adopted

  6. Funny - Sarah and I were having a discussion about this just yesterday. There can be no ugly mommies, because to your baby, you are the most beautiful woman in the world.


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